Most Americans these days have a social media routine. Maybe you wake up in the morning, get a cup of coffee in hand and peruse your Facebook account. You post photos, like and comment on your friends' posts. Or, you log onto Twitter late at night and make your opinions known to the world.
No matter how you use social media, it's important to scrutinize your social media activities during a divorce.
How to stay safe with social media during your divorce
It's one thing to complain to your best friend, sibling or parent about the intricacies of your divorce proceedings. It's a different thing, and highly ill-advised, to talk about your divorce on social media where the entire world can read it.
Especially if you're venting on Facebook or Twitter, keep in mind that this information is discoverable. It can be used against you in New York divorce courts.
Knowing all this, you may still be tempted to vent on social media. That's because a lot of people feel a cathartic release making their troubles known to the world. Nevertheless, the eyes watching your Facebook and Twitter feeds could belong to your soon-to-be ex-spouse. Even worse, they could belong to your spouse's divorce lawyer.
Do family law judges even care about Facebook?
In most cases, family law judges will not concern themselves too much with you and your spouse's personal dramas. However, some posts could be misconstrued as threats. They could also cause you to appear dishonest if you say one thing in court and display another attitude online.
The things you post could also come back to haunt you and disrupt your relationship with your ex-spouse and children in the years to come. Once it's on the internet, it's always on the internet, so make sure you're proud of the things you say when you post them online.
A great rule of thumb that all divorcing spouses in New York should follow is this - If you don't want your child, the judge or your ex to see it, it's better not to post it. Alternatively, if you really feel like you need to post something that's questionable, try running it by your New York divorce attorney for some valuable perspective.